Out of Control
We have no control over anything. Not our children, the dog, people at work, or the neighbors that are driving you crazy. This is because each person is in control of themselves. We have a very powerful mind and our mind determines our actions “and” nobody has access to another person’s inner workings but themselves. Let’s imagine your best mate does something upsetting. “You are making...Learn More
Feelings of the Wildfires
I really don’t know what to say about how shocked I have been to see the devastation playing out in Los Angeles. I grew up, lived, and worked in the Santa Monica / Pacific Palisades area, and my last home was literally a mile south of all the devastation. This past week I have found myself trying to sort out my feelings before traveling there to see the devastation firsthand. One of my...Learn More
Are You Enlightened?
If you think you are enlightened, go home for the holidays. Well, at least that was the joke they told us in grad school. Family has a way of pushing our buttons even if you believe you are an ascended master. After years and years of personal growth, I recently went home for the holidays and had a great time! Am I enlightened? No, far from it. I still had my anxieties, hurt, and shame. Now,...Learn More
Battling the Blahs
If you wake up in the morning, have no energy, no motivation, and no direction, these can be signs of depression. It is normal for people to have ups and downs but if these symptoms happen on a daily basis, and keep you from work, school, social interactions, or the things you normally do, then getting professional treatment would be important. Depression has many causes. It could be...Learn More
A Fond Farewell – Charity
With a heavy heart, one of my staff members is leaving the nest and moving to Florida with her family in a few days. We have been together for six years and after supervising her during her college years and while she was working to obtain her counseling license we had grown very close. I am well aware of the fact that people enter and leave our lives, but that doesn’t prepare you for the...Learn More
Special Memory #6
My sister Samantha bought me the greatest birthday gift ever, a Karaoke machine. Little did I know at the time how much that machine would enhance my livelihood. This was when I was working with the learning disabled at an independent living facility that taught young adults how to perform the normal duties of life, including cooking, cleaning, shopping, and paying bills. We’d gather at...Learn More
Down and Out, Up and Out
Lack of motivation can be a normal way of life for many people. It usually takes place when the physical body has no energy and the heart has no desire. What generally contributes to this level of blah is our level of fitness, our diet, the amount of daily exercise, and whether we are following our doctor’s orders by ingesting the proper medication. Taking care of your physical needs may be...Learn More
Self Care
Most people think of self-care as taking care of our physical body. The focus is mainly on getting enough exercise, eating the perfect diet, and going for a treatment at the spa. Well, yes, this is a portion of self-care but it is not the full picture. To ultimately take care of ourselves we have to consider our whole self. This was news to me when I entered graduate school. I was so focused...Learn More
Top Ten Reasons to Not Attend Treatment
I thought I would Dr. Phil in my article today, just to have a little fun, since he is known for his top 10 lists. For years therapy has been frowned upon and many clients who have attended it have been chastised. As of recent, more and more are entering treatment due to the state of affairs in the world, and when somebody new enters my facility, I ask them what has prevented them from...Learn More