The 12 “Basic Steps” to Issue Resolution
It had been 15 years since I was reunited with my paperwork from school. Like an ancient treasure that I vaguely remembered, all of the handouts we used at the University of Santa Monica lay before my grubby hands! I was over the moon with excitement because what lay before me changed me from a little boy to a man! I had a vacation home in the desert outside of Joshua Tree National Park and...Learn More
How to Use the Universal Power
From time to time, I ask myself why I am withholding a lot of valuable information that was taught at the University of Santa Monica. Many of these techniques are ones I use daily in my practice and have helped thousands of people. Being in an almost trance-like state while counseling others has helped me survive an industry I have worked in for over 30 years, many of those years spent at...Learn More
Holiday Story
Happy holidays to you and yours. I don’t know about you, but when the holidays come around, memories of the past come rushing to mind—both good and bad. Luckily, I have plenty of tools to support me through the old anger and hurt, and I try to hold onto the good memories for as long as I can. This is my 68th holiday, and what usually takes place at the onset of the holidays is my getting a...Learn More
Self-Care and Mental Health
If we treated ourselves with respect, the majority of our problems would improve. Even though this states the obvious, it is not as simple as it sounds. Why don’t you take the ultimate care of yourself? Is there not enough time? Would people judge you as selfish? Maybe you find it more fun drinking with your friends than growing? The biggest element of change is the desire to change. Going...Learn More
So, You Want to Help People?
I learned, on my first day in graduate school, that I couldn’t fix people. Frustrated, I had to find another strategy to help myself feel better. At that time, emotionally, I felt broken and tried to win the hearts of people so they would not hurt me. You see, I came from years of childhood abuse, and deep down, I tried to protect myself from ever experiencing any type of abuse again. So I...Learn More
The Reason Why You Are Overwhelmed
Working at the Mental Health Urgent Care Center for 11 years helped me put a lot of the psychology I studied into perspective. I might have studied something, but seeing it in real life was impactful. At this facility, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Disorders came to life, and the scary thing was—you never knew what was going to walk into the facility next. What helped me through...Learn More
I Am Upset Because…
Have you ever considered that what you see is make-believe? That people aren’t causing you upset, but you are? Oh, this is radical thinking because it is contrary to our beliefs. This person made you feel bad, but actually, this person did something; that experience went into the central hub of your brain—which we call the Ego. The Ego decides if it is good or bad and determines what the...Learn More
The Energetic to Psychology
One cannot deny that each cell in our body is comprised of an electric charge. If we were to view ourselves as energetic beings, then we have the capacity to choose whether to emit positive or negative energy. When a person walks into a room, their energy impacts it. Some emit a creepy vibe that puts you on guard, while others may fill you with a sense of joy. What impact do you have on a...Learn More
The Number One Healing Tool
As an advocate of Spiritual Psychology, sometimes I feel like a lone wolf in the wilderness. In a world where CBT and DBT get much of the attention, I’ve seen each approach not get the results that are desired, giving psychotherapy a bad rap. If you are in acute distress, behaving a certain way, thinking a certain way, or using anger as a defense will lead to poor results. Then maybe it is...Learn More