Common Relationship Problems
Relationships take a lot of work to keep alive, fresh, and upbeat. You would think that falling in love was all that is needed, but to be honest, when two people connect, they bring with them their doubts, fears, and unresolved issues. Maneuvering through this can bring heartache if one doesn’t know the proper tools. For myself, relationships are complex. Since I have made all of the...Learn More
The Reason Why You Are Overwhelmed
Working at the Mental Health Urgent Care Center for 11 years helped me put a lot of the psychology I studied into perspective. I might have studied something, but seeing it in real life was impactful. At this facility, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Disorders came to life, and the scary thing was—you never knew what was going to walk into the facility next. What helped me through...Learn More
I Am Upset Because…
Have you ever considered that what you see is make-believe? That people aren’t causing you upset, but you are? Oh, this is radical thinking because it is contrary to our beliefs. This person made you feel bad, but actually, this person did something; that experience went into the central hub of your brain—which we call the Ego. The Ego decides if it is good or bad and determines what the...Learn More
The Number One Healing Tool
As an advocate of Spiritual Psychology, sometimes I feel like a lone wolf in the wilderness. In a world where CBT and DBT get much of the attention, I’ve seen each approach not get the results that are desired, giving psychotherapy a bad rap. If you are in acute distress, behaving a certain way, thinking a certain way, or using anger as a defense will lead to poor results. Then maybe it is...Learn More
This Is What Spiritual Psychology Is All About!
When I first got into the industry and observed how other professionals handled clients, one mentor of mine stands out – Albert Saparoff. Albert was the innovator of the Get High on Life Program and would go into the inner city to teach self-esteem to high school students. Albert had been retired for 20 years when I met him, and we had interesting conversations about alternative methods of...Learn More
How to Fix Other People
I am sure that you know someone in need of help. 20% of the people in this country suffer from severe mental or substance-related problems–that’s one in five! It makes you think twice about getting behind the wheel of your vehicle. So how do we fix them? This is always a fun topic when teaching interns. Well, cutting to the chase, the answer is–we can’t. The truth is–the only person we can...Learn More
Obligation – Stay or Go
Are we so entrenched in societal rules that we’ve lost track of our own well-being? For many people, they have married a person because it was the correct thing to do. Then they will remain in the relationship because of the children, and will see the signs that their partner is abusive, but if they ended the relationship what would other people think? I ask people how long in the...Learn More
Limiting Beliefs
Just before I began writing, something upsetting happened that got me upset. This happened because my expectations weren’t met. It’s hard to admit that I reacted like a spoiled child, but it is true. I had just gotten back from a great week of recovery work in Los Angeles, due to all the fires, and as the plane landed in SeaTac I guess all my maturity was left on the tarmac. And thus, as...Learn More
Feelings of the Wildfires
I really don’t know what to say about how shocked I have been to see the devastation playing out in Los Angeles. I grew up, lived, and worked in the Santa Monica / Pacific Palisades area, and my last home was literally a mile south of all the devastation. This past week I have found myself trying to sort out my feelings before traveling there to see the devastation firsthand. One of my...Learn More