Is Your Family of Origin Sick?
According to Object Relations Therapy, all mental illness has its roots in early childhood experiences. If your family was dysfunctional, there are great odds that this was passed down to you. Do your relationships mirror the relationship your parents had? Do you fight? Do you avoid any confrontations? Is it important for you to be right? Do you have to be in control? Are you always...Learn More
Are you Addicted to Being Right?
Are you addicted to being right? Is it important for you to win? It is important to understand that when one person is right or wins, another person is wrong and loses. Having to be right and win all of the time is the downfall of meaningful relationships. We refer to these as Transactional relationships. In Transactional relationships failure is eminent. Transactional Relationships For many...Learn More
Helping People Help Themselves
Do you know how to help somebody? It would be easier if they allowed us to help that is for sure. The truth of the matter is, we have no control over another person – that’s their job. It is a frustrating fact for us professionals who want to help but in all actuality realize we can’t fix them at all. The real opportunity for us is to fix ourselves. This was the premise of my graduate school....Learn More
Out of the Shadows
When you hide away from others to avoid ridicule, whether it is from suffering from mental illness or having problems with addiction it is important to take the proper action and quickly to come out of the shadows. The majority of the people entering our program reported experiencing a lot of shame and hid their behavior so they didn’t have to defend themselves. When something is drastically...Learn More