Befriending Bipolar
Bipolar Disorder has its ups and downs. Actually, that is the definition of the disorder. Clinically speaking, it is a disorder of the Hippocampus in the brain, which is the center of our wake/sleep cycle. The Hippocampus impacts the body by releasing adrenaline into the system. When the valve opens, it bathes the body with adrenaline and perks us up, however, this valve may stay open too long in those with Bipolar causing lots of energy, and ideas, and often people will do impulsive things. At the extreme, the mania that results can cause people to hear voices and have visual hallucinations. Then, suddenly the valve shuts down causing depression, excess sleep, and feelings of worthlessness. Whether people are rapid cycling or it is taking place on a weekly or monthly basis, the situation can disrupt work, school, relationships, and one’s sense of well-being. Medication is standard for the treatment of Bipolar, but there are a few things you can do to make Bipolar a bit more manageable.
1. Physical Level
Diet and exercise seem to go hand in hand with the treatment of Bipolar. Avoiding substance use is a key. Often people will “Self Medicate” and try to use unconventional treatments. The problem with self-medicating is the possibility of making the situation worse. The Psychiatrist I worked with for ten years always said, “You never know what you are getting on the street, and the dosage of medication is strictly enforced with the pharmaceuticals.
When the body is down, with no energy, a good diet, and supplements can provide the body with the nutrients it needs to perk back up. When the body is manic, exercise – but not overly intensive exercise – can rid the body of the excess energy.
2. Mind Set
There can be a euphoria to Bipolar. People can get addicted to the high highs of it, however, it is not uncommon for this euphoria to get out of hand and disrupt a person’s life. Coming to peace with your Bipolar is important. If you beat yourself up for having it and fight the symptoms, you are only at war with yourself. Make the symptoms okay, because at this time your brain needs to do what it is doing. Next, pause, take in a breath, and go slowly and deliberately during each manic phase. Reminding yourself you are balanced, safe, and stable can minimize the war from within. Write out all unnecessary thoughts and rip them up. Late at night, when the mania makes it difficult to sleep, journal writing, nature sounds, relaxation techniques, and visualizations of a wonderful place in nature can be beneficial.
Intention setting – or simply giving yourself a goal to achieve can help. For example – “My intention is to relax, get incredible sleep, and wake up ready to take on the day.”
3. Emotional Work
The language of the emotions is interesting to understand because it is not logical. In a sense, it is befriending parts of yourself. Emotionally, the key is befriending Bipolar. Talk with it, go for a long walk with it, and listen to what it needs. Befriending Bipolar? Yes, that’s the key. Look at things this way – your brain is still your brain, regardless of how it is working. Now, you can either hate it or not. As you hate yourself it only breaks you down. Thank your brain for doing what it does. Ask it to turn down the juice and be more at peace, then listen to the brain’s response.
Opposite hand writing works best. On paper have a conversation with Bipolar or the Hippocampus of the brain. Your dominant hand is you, the opposite hand is the ailment. Now, when love is applied to hurt we heal. This is the model of Spiritual Psychology. Try to be as loving as you can to Bipolar.
Let’s face it, Bipolar can also be an ally. There are positives to Bipolar and it is important to appreciate the good things Bipolar can do. In fact, many important people throughout history had the disorder. One being Thomas Edison who invented this modern era, when you think about it. The movie projector, records, the battery – all came from him. Bipolar can help a person look at life from a different perspective. Also, Bipolar isn’t something to be ashamed of because on some level everyone has it. Learning how to manage it when it is at the extreme is the key.
4. Professional Help
When something needs fixing, seek out experts in the field. Acupuncture helps the energy systems in your body to properly align. A nutritionist can help with dietary issues. I go to a Natural-pathic doctor who takes a blood test, prescribes nutritional supplements, and educates me on the foods to avoid that my body has an allergy to. Dental work is essential for overall health. Your heart and mouth are intimately connected. An annual physical check-up will educate you on how your overall health is and the steps that are needed to take. Early detection of any ailment is the key. For myself, massage works wonders. It helps move the Lymphatic system in the body and eliminates accumulated waste.
5. Psychotherapy
Mind, body, emotions, and spirit are what mainly comprise us. When each of these elements is at optimum we are happier, healthier, have more energy, and are fun to be around. The biggest struggle people have with Bipolar is falling asleep. How on Earth can a person relax when all of this energy is shooting through them? What is important is to get into a daily routine of diet, exercise, and relaxation. When exercising during the day, it is easier to fall asleep at night. At a minimum, a half hour of walking every day. Even when you don’t have the energy, on those days, walk slower and enjoy your surroundings.
When you do something for yourself on a regular basis, you create self-trust. It is almost as if you are making a marital vow to you. Self-care has had negative connotations in this society. We are narcissistic or selfish in the eyes of others. Who cares? When you take care of you, you are more available to them because you have more energy and more joy. How often have you shoulded all over yourself? “I didn’t do my best and I should have done…” Let that go. Each time you practice self-care you are making a deposit into your own emotional bank account. How is that balance? Be kind to yourself first, then to others.
The last important element is to be honest with yourself. This ailment doesn’t go away because this is how your brain is wired. You can embrace this, learn from it, find ways to work with it, and allow professional help if all of your efforts have failed, but it still doesn’t mean you are less than or better than others. It just means this is how your brain works. Period.
Here are the warning signs:
- Shopping sprees
- Regrettable behaviors sexually
- Substance use/self-medicating
- Hallucinations
- Not being able to sleep for 24 hours
- Angry and aggressive outbursts
- Having a flight of ideas, starting projects, but never finishing them
- Making spur-of-the-moment decisions that you later regret
Changing careers, going on exotic vacations, or getting a divorce just out of the blue are signs that you are reactive. Being proactive means pre-planning. If you are not content in your marriage, talk about it with your mate, go to counseling, or do more activities together where you open up and talk about what has been bothering you. You may be surprised to discover that both of you are making assumptions and once on the same page, the relationship clicks back into gear.
Compassionate Care is Always Available
There are many more tools and strategies you can use in your pursuit of happiness. Here is where we come in. Contact us at Basic Steps Mental Health and let us support and educate you on this journey back to your loving heart center. Imagine living a heart-centered life, regardless of what is happening externally. We’d love to be of help.
For 25 years, Dr. Scott Alpert, the clinical director of Basic Steps Mental Health, has treated over 7,000 people with mental health and addiction problems, using a Psychological approach that mixes and matches ten of the top approaches used in the industry. We are here virtually and in-person to help you get through this COVID-19 pandemic and many other difficulties you may be experiencing.
May you have good mental health.
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