Self-Care and Mental Health
If we treated ourselves with respect, the majority of our problems would improve. Even though this states the obvious, it is not as simple as it sounds. Why don’t you take the ultimate care of yourself? Is there not enough time? Would people judge you as selfish? Maybe you find it more fun drinking with your friends than growing? The biggest element of change is the desire to change. Going...Learn More
So, You Want to Help People?
I learned, on my first day in graduate school, that I couldn’t fix people. Frustrated, I had to find another strategy to help myself feel better. At that time, emotionally, I felt broken and tried to win the hearts of people so they would not hurt me. You see, I came from years of childhood abuse, and deep down, I tried to protect myself from ever experiencing any type of abuse again. So I...Learn More
The Reason Why You Are Overwhelmed
Working at the Mental Health Urgent Care Center for 11 years helped me put a lot of the psychology I studied into perspective. I might have studied something, but seeing it in real life was impactful. At this facility, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Disorders came to life, and the scary thing was—you never knew what was going to walk into the facility next. What helped me through...Learn More
I Am Upset Because…
Have you ever considered that what you see is make-believe? That people aren’t causing you upset, but you are? Oh, this is radical thinking because it is contrary to our beliefs. This person made you feel bad, but actually, this person did something; that experience went into the central hub of your brain—which we call the Ego. The Ego decides if it is good or bad and determines what the...Learn More
The Energetic to Psychology
One cannot deny that each cell in our body is comprised of an electric charge. If we were to view ourselves as energetic beings, then we have the capacity to choose whether to emit positive or negative energy. When a person walks into a room, their energy impacts it. Some emit a creepy vibe that puts you on guard, while others may fill you with a sense of joy. What impact do you have on a...Learn More
The Number One Healing Tool
As an advocate of Spiritual Psychology, sometimes I feel like a lone wolf in the wilderness. In a world where CBT and DBT get much of the attention, I’ve seen each approach not get the results that are desired, giving psychotherapy a bad rap. If you are in acute distress, behaving a certain way, thinking a certain way, or using anger as a defense will lead to poor results. Then maybe it is...Learn More
12 Steps vs Spiritual Psychology
When somebody remarked in group that our program is not the 12 Steps, a fire was ignited. And no, it is not. When I was admitted into graduate school, I had been working at a 12-Step facility for years and quickly learned that this was the real thing. This is not to say that the 12 Steps are horrible and that people don’t heal and grow from its application, but being a brash young man, I...Learn More
This Is What Spiritual Psychology Is All About!
When I first got into the industry and observed how other professionals handled clients, one mentor of mine stands out – Albert Saparoff. Albert was the innovator of the Get High on Life Program and would go into the inner city to teach self-esteem to high school students. Albert had been retired for 20 years when I met him, and we had interesting conversations about alternative methods of...Learn More
How to Climb Out of the Rut
The picture a client painted of their current situation really impacted me. They felt like they didn’t match up to others, that people were judging them harshly, that they couldn’t meet their own expectations, that they were stuck in a nowhere job, and why did they always feel a sense of doom? When you are in such a rut as this, how can you get out of it? The motto of my graduate school...Learn More